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Living in a toxic environment can be accidental. Meaning the people you live with may not know they're toxic. Any move you make can cause friction. There is no compromise or forgiveness in this kind of household. Bitterness and resentment abound and run plentiful. The pain that comes from such a place is sometimes overwhelming. It can produce substance abuse and even suicidal thoughts. It oftentimes causes you to become withdrawn in your quest to seek out a peaceful habitation.
They're loving, wise, and gentle to the outside world, but a gaged animal to those close to you. What's it like living here? What goes on? It's constant bickering, I am not preaching at you I am just telling you a scenario that is never helpful or kind. There's no love in it, just the selfish, self-righteous martyr who thrives on playing the whoa as me card, and always getting angry when someone makes the slightest wrong move. It's constant put-downs, never giving an encouraging word or even a compliment. These are your family. You love them regardless but that does not mean you want to be around them.
There are ways that you can use to cope. One is learning to keep your distance and only going around them when you have to. Others are art. Art can be an escape for some putting your pain on canvas. Writing is another like I am doing now. Write a poem. Talk to someone you trust and retail therapy is a thing but I don't advise it because it can become habit-forming just like drugs or alcohol. Instead, go for a walk. Do something to get your mind off of what is going on around it. Lastly and most importantly go to God, and pray, talk to Him. Go to church.
I hope this helps whoever may be reading it and that it lets you know you are not alone.
By: Bernice Bowling
